Daya went to Italy yesterday. She's doing the same dance program she did last year.
The problem with this trip- and I somehow seem to be the only one who thinks this is troubling- is that Daya does not have a return ticket booked.
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Back in November I wrote about her aunts in South Africa coming out of the woodwork, and a June trip for both of us to South Africa was proposed. Her Aunt J works for the government and said she could take care of the flights from her end because she gets diplomatic discount or something like that.
Daya was supposed to go to SA right from Italy. I was supposed to join.
First it was We'll talk at the end of January. Nothing but ok.
I brought it up again end of Feb.
Oh, there is still time, I'll get back to you last week of March/first week of April.
Nothing.
I said to Daya, if this is happening I need to know how to plan.
Daya reached out and the response was sorry, sorry, I promise I'll be ready to talk on April 7th.
On April 8th I wrote the whole thing off as a fake invite that isn't happening. Whatever.
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Well, Daya has been in touch with them and they keep telling her they'll take care of it.
LAST WEEK they asked for her passport info. LAST WEEK!!!!
Also last week Daya still thought she was going to SA after Italy.
I asked do you have a flight? No.
Where are you staying? I don't know.
THIS IS TROUBLING.
Now the story is she can't come into SA from Italy, she has to come back to the US first and something about it being a problem getting her a visa.
That one is especially good because....
AMERICAN PASSPORTS DO NOT NEED A VISA TO GO TO SOUTH AFRICA.
It's right there on the SA Consulate page. Less than 90 days, no visa. Just go.
Also government officials can book travel and make arrangements very easily.
This is something her aunt should have done months ago and it's nothing for her to do it.
So Daya is in Italy with no ticket out of Italy because her aunt has told her she'll take care if it but absolutely nothing has happened. Daya isn't upset in the slightest. Says I shouldn't be either.
I told her she's not being treated well and she got upset with me and told me it isn't my situation and her Aunt J knows what she's doing.
....Except it will be my situation if her aunt doesn't come through getting her out of Italy and I'm the one who has to get my stranded daughter back to the United States.
Also I don't like people who lie to my child and give her a bullshit runaround.
I had a chat with my internationally- versed friend about this and she told me I need to prepare to get Daya out of Italy.
I guess we'll know in 2 weeks.
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This morning I went down to the boathouse for a little while.
It was cold and slow.
Spelling clearly doesnt matter anymore....