I did not take any of them.
I cleaned Daya's room on Saturday while she was in team rehearsal.
Her room was pretty bad, and I knew she felt overwhelmed. So I fixed it.
She was very happy and she loves it.
I told her that keeping it up is very simple: garbage goes in garbage, put stuff away when you are done. (which includes laundry) She likes to put things wherever, especially the floor, and that's the main cause of why her room gets so messed up. I keep telling her it's easy to just put things back where you got them. She says it is hard. (???) Then she says she doesn't understand the point of putting something back if she will just use it again.
Ummmm.... so you can find it? So your room stays neat?
Maybe this is just something she will have to grow into.
In the meantime, I enforce it everywhere else and I'll probably get on her case more about her room.
She has a wonderful room. It's big and sunny and purple, hardwood parquet floor, and she has a nice dance corner with a barre, mirror, all her dance pictures on the wall. Her night light is a 5 gallon fish tank. I tell her it is her space, I want it to be a happy room, one she loves and is proud of. That taking care of it is loving her space and herself.
I have been feeling remarkably better since that past life stuff came up.
Seriously much better, like something finally broke apart that I have had since (before) birth.
I feel different. In a good way.
So we'll see what happens.